FISH Training 比我前天的Board games好玩, With self-exemplary in this essay later.  

正题：

Fish, 让人生三分之一的时间快乐！（PLAY , MAKE THEIR DAY, BE THERE, CHOOSE UR ATTITUDE）

1.       Play

How to play, that’s a good question.

 这个鱼市有点不同，也很嘈杂，可是很热闹。很活跃却很融洽。打破常规的鱼市就这样形成了，他们可以觉得自己的工作很脏很累，但是积极的态度却让他们和顾客很好的互动。创造力和效率都提高了，士气也很好。

·问题是可惜我们不卖鱼。我们该怎么做？（思考～～～）

·怎么玩是个问题。

在工作中玩，自己给自己找乐子。人不可能分分秒秒快乐，那样是亢奋不正常的。

于是我们尽可能要保持快乐的心态。 尤其当你feel 自己要发火的时候，就是克制的时候。

·面对火气，要么发泄要么抑制。其实都有利弊，发泄了火气必然转嫁他人；自己消化掉也不利于健康。　

题外话：以前我觉得每周最快乐的日子就是相约星期六，和朋友们聚聚，然后聊天ＪＯＫＥ 桌游。朋友们也说我们的ＨＩＧＨ点很低，可能平时在外企被压抑惯了，桌游让我们释放自己。然后突然有一天我发现，太执着下去未必是好事，上瘾会有依赖。于是我开始发展新的娱乐项目，我对桌游的期待值可能不那么高了，也就导致我的be there 不那么热情了。所以周六我的投入就不那么积极了，这可能影响了我的快乐。

要快乐，就要积极的投入，做任何事都要Enjoy

 2.       Make their day

Make others happy then you will be happy

有啥不开心的说出来让大家开心开心。　

听到恭维很开心，这里就有个问题。　ＰＭＰ? 拍马屁，　ＰＭＰＭＰ ?? 拼命拍马屁。　ＰＭＰＭＰＰ??? 就是马屁拍的专业，让人感到真诚。

其实我不是花头滑脑的人，拍马屁不在行。我总觉得要说违心很表面的话很假。

昨天真的有学到。我们大学礼仪课好像没教到这个。被老师点名上去进行拍马屁大ＰＫ。。。。

要找切入点，要聆听，要投其所好，要鼓动人心。　比拼成功，马屁大王～我晕。。。其实我觉得我不是拍马屁，我说的就是事实。

每个人都有优点，在于你能不能发觉那个他的它。　

Joanne, 多张纸条我就贴你背后了，不过我有课后有发消息给你感谢喔。　

 3.       Be there

就是军师常说的做啥都要ENJOY, 就是你要在那里，要投入。你要身在曹营心在曹。要倾听和沟通。要有empathy, 西方人很讲这个。曾经看过高效能人士的一些ＴＩＰＳ，很强调这个。以后我就假设，假设这个人今天遇到了所有倒霉的事。算了同情下，不和你计较了。

我一直觉得自己不是很好的聆听者，常打断别人的话。以后要改正，要多聆听，不要加主观臆断。

 4.       Choose your attitude

 你不能选择环境或其他，但是你可以选择自己的态度。

I learned from Joanne about the law of attraction, we all need positive power. Like attracts like, we shall always do positive visualizations.

我们要做积极的假设，用心理暗示的方式鼓动自己，让自己更强更积极。不能让负面的东西影响自己太多。

例如：如果你说自己运气不好，只能更加倒霉，这样自怨自艾下去只能更衰。我们要让正面力量充满自己的小宇宙，无所不能。小宇宙发挥力量吧～

还有痛苦的问题，其实人生是杯茶，痛和苦就是其实中的盐，感觉的容器其实就是你的心，如果我不ＣＡＲＥ，就不会觉得对我影响大了。　

My Action Plan: (Joanne , thanks for reminder)

1.      要经常对人表示感谢

2.       要让别人快乐

3.       要投入要Enjoy

 今天有对一个人说感谢喔。我试图让EMIL 今天快乐，我帮她ＭＡＳＳＡＧＥ，对丽娜姐姐微笑。　

Cheers,

我和可爱美少女TRACY。大老板的秘书。我的头怎么这么大！？

All of the seasons together

Zong Shi Zai Yi Qi

总是在一起

It is a privilege for me to be present at this celebration. I am one of many benefactors of my parents’ long and stable marriage. As the second son, I speak now in the place that rightly belongs to my older brother. I am quite sure, if he were here, he would have better and richer words to say.

Jin tian neng gou chu xi zhe ge qin zhu dian li, shi wo de rong xing. Wo shi baba mama mei man chang jiu hun ying de shou yi zhe zhi yi. Zuo wei di 2 ge er zi, wo jin tian dai biao wo de ge ge zai ci xian shang he ci. Wo xiang xin ru guo jin tian gege neng gou chu xi, ta hui bi wo you geng duo he geng feng fu de nei rong yao shuo gei da jia ting.

今天能够出席这个庆祝典礼，是我的荣幸。我是爸爸妈妈美满长久婚姻的受益者之一。作为二儿子，我今天代表我的大哥哥在此献上祝词。我想，如果今天哥在这里，他会比我有更多和更丰富的内容要说给大家听。

I cannot, in a few minutes, give my parents the proper honor due to them. Their long life has been too colorful to allow for that. Better than words, is to look at lives here that are intimately connected to theirs. To summarize a way of life is to look at its ramifications. The only way to truly appreciate the distance of a journey is to get glimpses of the road taken. None of us who are here tonight has a precise idea of the toll my parents had to pay to afford us the life we know.

Zai ji fen zhong nei, wo hen nan gei wo de fu mu ta men ying gai xiang you de rong yu. Ta men zai yi qi de zhe xie sui yue yuan yuan de bi ci yu biao da yao feng fu de duo.bi ci yu geng hao de shi kan kan ta men de sheng huo. Dui shi shuo de gai kuo ze yao guan cha zhe zhong sheng huo dai lai de ying xiang. Dui yi lu qian xing de lv cheng de xin shang lai zi dui mei yi ge jiao bu de guan zhu. Jin wan zai ci de mei yi wei ye bu hui jin que de zhi dao wei wo de xian you de sheng huo, wo de fu mu fu chu le duo shao de jian xin.

在几分钟内，我很难给我的父母他们应该享有的荣誉。他们在一起的这些岁月很难用词语表达和概括。比词汇更好更直观的的是回顾他们一起度过的生活。 而对他们生活的概括则要观察这种生活所带来的影响。对一路不断前行的旅程的欣赏，往往来自对每一个脚步的关注。今晚在此的每一位(亲朋好友)也许不会精确地知道，为我现有的生活，我的父母一步一步付出了多少的艰辛。

If we were to use a measure of worldly success, it would be quite easy to conclude that we have done well as a family. My late oldest brother, Yong Tsun, was a successful attorney. I was once appointed a professor of medicine at UCSD, and now am working as the chief of staff of a large Singaporean company in Shanghai. My three younger brothers have made a name for themselves in the Californian culinary landscape with their unique brand of fish tacos. True and lasting success, however, cannot be measured in terms of careers, titles and financial statements. Those will vanish soon enough.

Ru guo yong shi xu de yan guang kan, wo men hen rong yi de ke yi de chu jie lun shuo wo men de jia ting shi feng cheng gong. Wo shi qu de da ge, Yong Tsun, cong qian shi ge hen chu ming de lv shi. I ceng jing bei ren ming wei UCSD de yi ke jiao shou, xian zai ze zai yi jia zai shanghai de xin jia po guo ji yi liao ji tuan zuo yi liao zong jian. Wo de san ge di di ze zai mei guo jia li fu ni ya zhou (jia zhou) de can ying ye yin qi du te de fish taco pin pai er cheng ming. Ran er, zheng zheng de chi jiu de cheng gong que bu ke yi yong shi ye, tou xian, he jing ji zhuang kuang lai hen liang. Zhe xie hen kuai jiu ke yi xiao shi dai jing.

如果用世俗的眼光看，我们很容易的可以得出结论说我们的家庭是很成功的。我逝去的大哥，YONG TSUN，从前是一个很出名的律师。我自己曾经被任命为UCSD的一名教授，现在则在一家在上海的新加坡国际医疗集团出任首席医疗官。我的三个弟弟则在美国加州的餐饮业，因其独特的FISH TECO品牌而成名。然而，正真的，持久的成功却不可以用事业，头衔，和经济状况来衡量。因为这些很快就可能消失殆尽。

We should look, instead, at the lives my parents lived and the decisions that made it possible for us to live in this privileged station. None of this happened in a vacuum. None of this would have been possible if my parents did not have the character traits essential to risk taking. From where we stand, it is almost incomprehensible how it all came to pass from our humble roots in Yangzhou.

Wo men yin ci ying gai kan kan wo men fu mu de sheng huo he ta men zuo chu de jue ze. Zhe xie zhu zao le jin tian de wo men de you yue de sheng huo. Zhe xie you yue dou bus hi teng kong chu shi de. Ru guo bu shi fu mu xing ke zhong de mao xian jing sheng, jin tian de sheng huo wu cong shuo qi. Ci shi ci ke, wo men ji hu nan yi xiang xiang dang nian fu mu zai yang zhou de ping ku chu shen.

我们因此应该看看我们父母的生活和他们做出的抉择。正是这些，铸造了今天的我们的优越生活。这些优越都不可能横空出世。如果不是父母性格中的冒险精神，今天的生活无从说起。此时此刻站在这里，我们几乎难以想象当年父母在扬州的贫苦出身。

Our family in China is still composed of peasants and laborers. Surely our personal horizons would have been limited to those choices had my parents stayed in China. Whether they had planned or not, I am quite certain that our welfare and betterment is what motivated both of them to navigate through a world war, a national revolution, poverty, nearly a decade of separation, frugal living, a travel into a distant and unknown culture and work to create a new life for their growing family. For many, one such a proposition would have been more than enough. My parents were immigrants twice. In two very different lands, Brazil and the US, they succeeded in not only making a living, but also creating a haven for their children. We, the children, still do not fully understand how they sheltered us from suffering and poverty. Thanks to them, we have never known a day of need.

Wo men zai zhong guo de jia ting cheng yuan hai shi you nong min he lao dong zhe zu cheng. Ru gou fu mu liu zai le zhong guo, wo men ye xu ye bie wu xuan ze, yan jie shou zu. Wu lun dang chu ta men shi fou ke yi gui hua, wo hen ken ding hai zi men de xin fu he geng you yue de cheng zhang shi ta man li jing shi jie da zhan, guo jia dong luan, ping ku, jin shi nian de feng li, liu li shi suo, yuan du chong yang dao yi ge wan quan mo sheng he wei zhi de guo du, bing yang yu hai zi zhuang da jia ting, bei hou de dong li. Ye xu dui bie ren lai shuo, zhe yang de yi ci ren sheng jing li yi jing zu gou, wo de fu mu que yi ming le 2 ci. Zai 2 ge jiong yi de guo du, ba xi he mei guo. Ta men bu jing ting liu zai feng yi zu shi, ye wei wo men hai zi chuang zao le yi ge tian tang. Wo men, zuo wei hai zi, reng jiu bu neng shen ke de li jie fu mu shi zeng yang bu rang wo men zao shou tong ku he ping qiong. Yin wei fu mu, wo men cong lai mei you du guo yi tian kun nan de ri zi.

我们在中国的家庭成员还是有农民和劳动者的组成。如果父母留在了中国，我们也许也别无选择，眼界也应此多少受到阻隔。无论当初他们是否刻意规划，我很肯定，孩子们的幸福和更优越的成长是他们历经世界大战，国家动乱，贫苦，近十年的分离，流离失所，远渡重洋到一个完全陌生和未知的国度，并养育孩子和不断壮大的家庭的原动力。也许对别人来说，这样的一次人生经历已经足够，我的父母却移民了2次，分别到了2个迥异的国度 - 巴西和美国。他们不仅停留在丰衣足食，也为我们孩子创造了一个天堂。我们，作为小孩，仍旧不能深刻地理解父母是如何做到不让我们遭受痛苦和贫穷。因为父母的努力，我们从来没有度过一天困难的日子。

How did two complete strangers manage to survive these ordeals? My grandparents notified my parents that they were going to marry each other. They were not consulted. Neither had so much as glanced at the other. The kind of romance that Hollywood inebriates us with was not what they were handed when they exchanged their vows. What they got instead was a fragmented world in which to test their mettle.

2 ge wan quan mo sheng de ren shi zen me zou dao yi qi bing qie yi tong zhou guo zhe xie sui yue de mo li ne? wo de zu fu mu you yi tian tong zhi wo de fu mu ta men ying gai jie hun. Wan quan mei you tong 2 ge hai zi shi xian shang liang. Ta men ye mei you shen me shen qing dui wang. Hao lai wu de lang man qing jie mei you zai ta men li xia hun shi de shi hou fa sheng. Deng dai ta men de shi yi ge ce shi ta men feng dou jing sheng de bu wan zheng de shi jie.

2个完全陌生的人是怎样走到一起并且一同走过这些岁月的磨砺呢? 很久以前，我的祖父母有一天告诉我的父母他们应该结婚了。完全没有同2个孩子事先商量。父母他们也没有什么双目深情对视的美好经历。好莱坞的浪漫情节也完全没有在他们立下婚誓的时候发生。等待他们的却是一个考验他们奋斗精神的支离破碎的世界。

In all my growing years, I have never seen my parents kiss under the moonlight. I have never seen them waltz under a canopy of stars. I have never witnessed them making romantic overtures to each other. I often wondered, as a young man, why the culture of my parents was so guarded with human affections. I learned, as I watched them, that there are other factors that lend strength to a marriage.

Zai wo cheng zhang de sui yue li, wo cong wei kan dao fu mu zai yue guang xi ashen qing xiang wen. Ye mei you kan dao ta men zai xing kong xia you ya de tiao hua er zi. Ye mei you jian zheng ta men xiang dui fang ti chu lang man de jian yi. Xiao de shi hou, wei shen me fu mu na me lin xi ta men de ai he xi huan de qing gan. Zai ri hou de guan chang zhong, wo ming bai, yi ge wen gu de hun yin hai xu jue yu hen duo qi ta de yin su.

在我成长的岁月里，我从未看到父母在月光下深情相吻。也没有看到他们在绚烂星空下优雅的跳着华尔兹。也没有见证他们向对方示出浪漫情怀。小的时候我总是在想，为什么父母那么吝惜他们的爱和喜欢的情感。在日积月累的观察中，我明白，一个稳固的婚姻一定还取决于很多其他的因素。

What sixty years of marriage, nearly fifty of which I have been a part of, has taught me is that love and devotion have other ways to mark their presence. My parents are far from perfect. They have had their trying moments in this marriage, I am quite sure. I am just as sure that they never doubted they were going to make it work. Through the years, they have remained fiercely loyal to each other. Each deficiency was buttressed by the other’s strength. Each failure used as a fuel toward future success. That is the fundamental reason, as I see it, that so many of the head winds of life have been turned to tail winds in their favor. They did not grow weary, but persevered. Their patience, long-suffering, love and tenacity is the reason we are here to celebrate this momentous occasion. This expression of love and devotion, so rare in our days, has not been lost to us. It may not be romantic or sentimental, but it is made of the stuff that carries a family the long distance ahead.

Their journey made our heritage rich and unique. We have China to thank for my parents, Brazil to thank for our coming into their arms, and the US for giving us the home we now cherish.

Fu mu 60 nian de hun ying zhong, wo jian zheng le qi zhong de 50 nian. Ta jiao hui wo ai he feng xian ke yi yong hen duo fang shi lai biao xian. Wo fu mu yi dian ye bu wan mei. Wo hen ken ding ta men de hun ying ye zao yu guo kao yan. Dan shi wo ye tong yang ken ding ta men cong wei huai yi guo ta men de jie he. zhe me duo nian lai, ta men jian zheng bu yu, hu xiang fu chi. Mei yi ci de shi  bai dou shi wei lai cheng gong de ran liao. Zai wo kan lai ,Zheng shi zhe geng ben de xin nian, shi de ni feng zhong xing shi de fei ji hen kuai jiu zhuan dao le shun feng. Ta men cong mei gan dao yan fan, xiang fan ta men jian chi bu xie. Ta men de nai xin, rong reng, ai he jian chi shi wo men jin tian zai zhe li qing zhu de geng ben. Zhe fen dui ai he feng xian de biao da, jin guan zai jin tian shao zhi sheng shao, cong wei shi qu guo. Ye xu zhe fen biao da jib u lang man ye bu gan xing, que shi ying ling yi jia qian xing de li liang. Fu mu de ren sheng lv xing rang wo men de ji cheng ji feng fu you du te. Wo men gan xie fu mu sheng zhang de zhong guo, wo men chu sheng de ba xi he gei wo men wen nuan jia he cheng zhang de mei guo.

父母60年的婚姻中，我见证了其中的50年。它教会我爱和奉献可以用很多方式来表现。我父母一点也不完美。我很肯定，他们的婚姻也遭遇过考研。但是我也同样肯定他们从未怀疑过他们的结合。这么多年来，他们坚贞不渝，互相扶持。每一次的失败都是未来成功的助燃剂。在我看来，正是这根本的信念，使得他们在逆风中行驶的飞机每次很快就转到了顺风中。他们从没感到厌烦，相反地，他们坚持不懈。他们的耐心，容忍，爱和坚持正是我们今天在这里庆祝的根本原因。这份对爱和奉献的表达，尽管在如今这个时代已变得少之甚少，但是它从来没有从我们身上离开过。也许这种表达方式既不浪漫也不感性，确是引领一家不断前行的力量。从父母的人生旅程，我们继承的是既丰富又独到的东西。我们感谢父母生长的中国，我们出生的巴西，和我们温暖家和成长的美国。

I regret that most of the family has not visited Yangzhou. That is the only way to gain a fair appreciation of their personal great leap forward. At the end of their unbelievable, nearly impossible journey, we stand as grateful heirs to a world of possibilities their personal journey opened up for us.

Wo jue de hen yi han wo men da bu fen de jia ting cheng yuan dou mei you qu guo Yangzhou. Zhe ying gai shi wei yi hui gu he gan ji wo men fu mu da bu qian xing de chu fa dian. Zai ta men de rang ren nan yi zhi xin de lv tu zhong dian, wo men gan ji fu mu yong ge ren de xi sheng wei wo men huan lai de chong man sheng ji de ji tian.

我觉得很遗憾我们大部分的家庭成员还没有去过扬州。这应该是唯一可以回顾和感激我们父母大步前行的起始点和故乡。在他们的让人难以置信的旅途终点，我们感激父母用个人的牺牲为我们换来的充满生机的生活和未来。

(I would like now to ask all of those who are immediate relatives to stand. Secondly, all of the spouses and significant others. I now propose a toast to Mr and Mrs Lee.)

(Wo xian zai xiang qing wo men de chi jia jia ting cheng yuan qi li; qi ci, qing fu qi he qing lv men qi li. Wo men dui Lee xian sheng he Lee Nv shi gan bei!)

我现在想由请我们的家庭成员起立。其次，请夫妻和情侣们起立。让我们大家请为李先生和李太太干杯！

We thank you for your lives. We congratulate you on this special milestone of your marriage. We wish you both many more enjoyable years ahead.

Wo men gan xie ni men de ren sheng. Wo men zhu he ni men hun ying li zhe ge te bie de li cheng bei. Wo men zhu fu mu de sheng huo he hun ying tian chang di jiu.

我们感激你们的人生。我们祝贺你们婚姻里又一个特别的里程碑。我们祝福父母的生活和婚姻天长地久！

昏头昏脑的其实我。睡得不好。但是老板表扬一番也是好的。管它是真是假。再接再厉。

Dear all,

 Today we had our xxxxxxxxxx meeting in the xxxxxxx . I would like to say a BIG thank you to the following persons for making this happen:

       Thank you to JoAnne for making all the arrangements and achieving a high attendance amongst her clients: they truly appreciate you.

·         Thank you to xxxxxxfor the excellent presentation and thank you to xxxxxfor your support in putting the presentation together.

·         Thank you to xxxx for her support during the event and thank you to xxxx for providing the attendees an excellent tour after the event.

·         Thank you to xxxxx for arranging the venue and thank you to xxxxx for the logistics support.

·         Thank you to xxxxxxxxxxxxx for creating the marketing materials, the nice voucher and a professional looking presentation.

And last but not least, thank you Frank for having such a beautiful smile J (just kidding).

In summary, this event was well received by the attendees and it gives us a platform to further build on.  Again, thank you very much for all your support.

Kind regards,

Frank 杜凡

VP Client Services客户服务副总裁

ParkwayHealth China百汇医疗中国