I found this interesting from Sandy's website. It is quite true. But the theory is moderation. Proverty and filthy rich life both are dangerous and damaging to the couples' brains. ^^

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Today went to Parliment House to grab the deal back. Good the guy with alien accent was very nice and friend, together with his fellow colleagues. We got conclusion that they would help to influence the SI to pay us. Or they will go with us directly. I am glad they expressed interest to renewal the contract with us directly next year. Was there in front of the stately Parliment House building so I took a few pictures.Read something in the interval between late lunch and meeting as below...interesting.

 

There are several reasons to pay late. Whilst we recommend a policy of crediting the first late payment invoice, it is important not to keep crediting late payment invoices. If the first invoice did not resolve a one-off problem then something is wrong. Continually crediting penalties is pointless. If you really want to do this, then simply don't raise the invoices, and accumulate a nice nest egg for when the customer eventually leaves you.

The main reasons for late payment are as follows...

Misunderstand

This is where the customer thinks they have paid within terms, and are horrified to find that they have not. It can come from misunderstanding the payment terms (e.g. 30 days, 60 days, etc) or misunderstanding subtleties of the terms (30 calender days or 30 working days) or when payment is considered made (posted within 30 days or it must arrive within 30 days, etc). It could be a misunderstanding of the amount, or who to pay or how to pay.

These issues are normally easily resolved. Invoicing a late payment penalty brings the problem to light quickly and a policy of crediting the first charge means the customer is not penalised. It should be used as an opportunity to resolve the misunderstanding and agree clearly and demonstrably what terms do apply in future. If this is the actual cause of the problem it should go away, and future invoices should be on time.

Miscommunication

This can happen where an invoice is misdirected (wrong postal or email address) or payment is sent to the wrong place, etc.

Again, this is a case where the late payment penalty prompts a resolution of an essentially one-off problem. A policy of crediting the first charge means the customer is not penalised, and the problem can be resolved to stop further late payment.

Trying it on

This is where the customer is playing games - e.g. trying to send payment on the last possible day and missing, or finding excuses to delay things.

This usually only happens where the customer does not believe late payment charges will actually be charged (i.e. an idle threat). Sending the late payment invoice makes then realise that you are serious and usually means they will not mess about in future. Again, crediting the first charge avoids upsetting the customer too much. This should be a one off problem, but can happen again if the customer thinks you will always credit the invoices, so it is important not to credit it a second time to ensure that the seriousness of sticking to agreements is impressed on the customer. After all, the customer would be upset if you decided to arbitrarily ignore some aspect of the contract when it affects them.

Bad accounting systems

Some people have accounting processes that take a long time to make payments.

Again, this is a one off problem and the late payment invoice highlights the issue. Crediting the first penalty avoids penalising the customer and more appropriate payment terms can be agreed to avoid future problems.

Some people may know they have bad processes and will just pay the penalties as well!

The problem may be resolved by the customer fixing their payment systems, or perhaps by agreeing terms which the customer can meet. Our experience is that customers with bad payment systems are not actually helped by extending terms though - they simply start the defective payment process later if they have longer to pay, and still pay late!

Policy

Some people have a policy of paying suppliers as late as they can get away with.

This is tricky to get around and can keep happening. The main thing is to not keep crediting the charges, so as to ensure the customer realises the penalties are real and must actually be paid. If you keep crediting charges then they will have got away with paying late and will continue to do so. If you really don't want to chase penalties, don't invoice them, just keep a total so you can charge when they eventually leave you.

Going bust

A major reason for a previously good payer to start paying late is that they are having difficulties. In this case crediting the first invoice will not help, but may be polite. It is likely the customer will not be able to pay the penalty invoice either. Good intentions but bad payment record and particularly bounced cheques should always be taken seriously. Don't let it drag on.

Excuses: http://www.paylate.co.uk/excuses.html

Here came the new intern working together with me. Oh, I really appreciate this girl's sweet smile and friendliness. My life becomes so much more fun with her advent. =) I guess I am full of elder sisterly love and I am still young at heart. ^^

 

Watched The Wizard of Oz last night with Vivien.

We both had some good laugh.

Here is the picture of one of them. The tin man, the scarestraw, Dorothy, and the lion.

I love the lion best.

The heart, the brain, the nerve~~~ ha ha ha

The other two small pictures are what I took from the cinama poster. Cute baby.

 

 

 

 

CANCER WOMAN


When she is in love, she will act both ways. First, Shy and polite trembling
to be near you. Second, Attach to you like glue and trying to be with you
all the times. She will try to go home with you after work, or have every
lunch with you. It is O.K. if you like her too, but if is is not the case,
you will feel very uncomfortable. 

She hates to be talked about or gossiped by someone else. If she knows she
will be very hurt. In nature she is a shy type, except she has been
influenced by some other Zodiac. She is not a brave or daring type, so if
you like her then you better be the one who start first. She will not accept
her true feeling, so if you like here you better tell her first.

She is like a musical note always change in tunes, so one minute she can be
funny and cheerful, and one minute she can be sad and depress. Other people
may think of her as "Over-acting", or "Over-reacting". 
 
When she is depress, she will go out and look for things to make it up. She
loves money, and thinks of having "Money" as "happy", not as "God". She will
not look down at you if you do not have a lot of money, but she will help
you make money, save money. She is not an extravagant person and sometimes
will tell you not to buy her expensive and not useful gift.

She is the type who enjoy a long and quiet walk. Cancer woman also
influenced by the "moon", so under the moon light she will be fascinating
woman. 

She has a constant fear for many things. She fear of not being smart enough,
not pretty enough. Even if she is not fat, she will not be satisfy. Assuring
her of her look would help, because she can change mood 4 times a day.

She is not stingy, but you will not surprise if you see she collecting old
or broken junks. She sees that everything are useful to her. She will find a
way to re-use it again some day. She is not a jealous type,but possessive.
 
The best part of her is that she will sacrifice everything for her love one
with no limit. Don't leave her in times of troubles, she will never forget
it. She is not a weak type, even she looks like one, Example if you argue
with her, she might cry her heart out. Once you left, she will wipe her
tears and start clean up her apartment normally.

She is a very careful mother and will look after her kids every steps of the
way. If she is a mother of your children, you are at ease, but if she is
your mother in law, you are in pain. Not to worry, this type of mother in
law will not let her own daughter being an "Old mate". 

She could be moody and argue with you in many little things like many women,
but she always wait and want to take care of you. If you argue with her and
disappear a few days, she will be waiting for you, but not for long O.K.
This kind of testing is risky, try not to do it.

大姐

今天早上一上网便看见妈妈在线上。虽然有点奇怪，也没有多管。向她抱怨我的难以成眠。自己也奇怪---前一晚阳台里一样的亮，小朋友一样的吵，为什么昨晚偏偏失眠呢。

 

潘随后发了信息给我说常州大妈妈今天早晨去世了。我还来不及反应，眼泪就涮涮落下来。

 

‘妈妈，你怎么刚刚不跟我讲啊？’‘你一上来说失眠，我们也悲痛，不知道怎么讲，怎么缓冲啊。’感情在这一刻怎能缓冲？我和妈妈同时沉默许久。

 

难道是心灵感应？爸爸说前一个月从大妈妈家团聚后带回来的，委托照顾的宠物乌龟近来一直不肯进食。无论爸爸如何地挖空心思，翻足花样，它对一贯喜爱的虾、肉、饭通通不理不睬。而昨晚今晨，我的心中似乎有说不出的烦恼和伤心。在那无眠的床上辗转反侧思量，自己也不能明白个中原因，顷刻间已经眼泪汪汪了。V显然为家里的事十分地烦心，于是两个人轮流在凌晨2点后起身，下了床去客厅伤心或是平静片刻，然后回到房间继续失眠。

 

我相信这是所谓的EMPATHY？为什么一贯好睡的人变得如此地不安，如此地憔悴？现在体会的心痛是感同身受伯伯的痛--携手并肩走过这么多年，他毕竟是要在最后的今天面对老伴先走一步的残酷。就如同每次阿哥生病，我是那样心痛我们的父母。死去的人也许解脱了残酷的病痛，他们不知道活着的人为他们伤心落泪。病痛缠身的人本身痛苦不堪，对旁观而手足无措的亲人来说又何尝不是煎熬啊。

 

大妈妈是最最善良的人。大伯是医学研究方面的技术厂长，她本身是医护人员，家里条件相当好。生活物质上，她却对自己相当苛刻，对别人却十分慷慨。当初家里买房子，他们倾力相助，不计报答。小时候，寒暑假里，我总是走东家，跑西家。家里的伯伯，大妈个个对我爱如己出。而常州老伯伯和大妈妈由于年龄和父母相差较大，总是带给我祖父母般的疼爱。

 

在常州的日子里，清晨起身，洗刷完毕，坐到桌上，豆浆已经热腾腾地盛好在碗里了。老伯伯也立马坐下，笑笑地惯例地开始便帮我剥鸡蛋了。我喜欢伯伯那修剪地一丝不苟的手和大妈妈在一旁看着并一成不变的微笑。一粒完美无缺，白嫩嫩的鸡蛋很快便滑入碗里。小手一巴掌就握起来，欣赏一番之后便享用这永远是最简单，也是最思乡的味道。然后慢悠地，正如同他们两老一贯的脾气和风格，伯伯从冰箱拿出我最爱的奶油蛋糕，切好了，用手指扶一把，端入盘里---我继续吃。那时的我真是沉浸在‘小公主’的幸福中。带我出去买菜，到处都会有人问 ’您的孙女吗？ 漂亮啊！’我的心中充满温暖和骄傲的感觉。中午洗头发，他们俩一个烧水，一个提着合适温度的水壶，帮我冲头发。‘涓啊，这样又干净又节约。舒服吗？’我洗地不亦乐乎。在家里，妈妈是要狠抓我头皮很疼的呀。我的反抗常常被’那样才洗的干净！’吞噬掉了。在大妈妈家里，什么都是小心翼翼，慢哉悠哉的。我至今记得这洗头的温柔场景。水慢慢的从伯伯提着的水壶流到我的头上，我便拼命地揉搓、配合，希望尽快完成以免伯伯的手臂因为举地太久而酸痛。头和半个身体罩着水池，我半眯着的眼，斜斜地看一旁站着看我们，笑眯眯的大妈。在我的印象里，做什么事，他们俩总是在一起的， 眼神里有我现在才能理解的更好的默契，尊重和爱护。每天午睡过后，大妈妈用绒线织俊马图，因为老伯伯是属马的。伯伯则做老年大学书法班的功课。一向随和的我，十分融洽地和两个老人共度了许多假期。小的时候，时常地羡慕他人的爷爷，奶奶，外祖父母如何地疼爱孙儿，孙女，遗憾自己家里的老人去世地早。后来时常地想，我也未尝不很好体会过了这人间美好的亲情呢。这种祖父母辈的爱是一直延续着的。

 

我和哥哥都还小的时候，过春节了，我们受邀举家出动，去大妈妈家团聚。早晨一起来，桌子上就有丰盛的早餐等着我们。记得最牢的是水扑蛋。大妈妈会给我们每人烧两个，放很多的糖---‘新年里头要甜甜蜜蜜。’一个没吃完呢，大妈就已经在厨房问了 ’还要吗？瑶蓓，你要的呀，你瘦多吃点！’没有等妈妈回答，又一个大鸡蛋又一咕噜滑到妈妈的碗里啦。看到我们吃饱了，她比自己享受还要高兴。那时，小孩的我可以观察到爸爸妈妈脸上难得轻松和被关怀备至的笑容。大妈妈的那种善良和热情一直闪现在她白里透红的脸上。我们心中的大妈是那么的健康。小孩子的想法是最好就一直住在她的家里了。晚上吃饭，更是吃成个胖子。大妈妈不断的夹菜给我们全家每一个人，生怕照顾不周似的。自己最后也不舍得倒掉那些汤汤水水，统统拌饭或者喝掉。近来的谈话中，老伯伯提到了这是不健康的做法。他们都是医生，但是却没有做到平时嘱咐叮咛病家的话。那是要节约啊，但是现在想来，又是多么不利于健康，埋下了隐患。他们真是中国传统长辈的典范，节约自己，对他人的大方和热情却超乎想象。人家一直说女人是最小心眼的，家里的不愉快，家族内的纷争都是女人的小气，计较导致的。而我的大妈妈是我们大家最尊敬和要学习的例子。大方朴素令她那么地和蔼可亲，受到我们大家的爱戴和尊崇。说到他，没有人可以说半点的不好，对她的为人只有赞不绝口。我一直想老伯伯真是一个幸运和幸福的人。人生能有（过）这样的知己，还有什么遗憾呢？我祈愿伯伯很快可以度过这人生的难关。

 

妈妈早早地定了火车票明天一大早要去常州，安慰老伯伯，给大妈妈送行。

 

恐怕来不及回去中国了。我心里将永远地怀念我的大妈妈。想起了那英的歌。在我11岁，外公去世的时候，哼着的这些歌，泪流满面。同样献给我的大妈妈。只是今天，在泪如雨下之后，我要将痛苦往肚里吞，而怀念和祝愿会永驻心头。

 

曲:高晓松词:高晓松
唱:那英
想念

不敢看你初来时的背影
不敢听你告别时的叮咛
在没有歌声没有人离开的城市里
我在等待你

醒来时淅淅沥沥的听雨
窗外有模模糊糊的声音
是你吗
我不顾一切推开窗向外望
一地的月光
我开始想念你
我开始想念你

长长的长街
一直到未知的天边
长长的故事
一直到未完的童年
长长的辫子
印在你灰色的唱片
常常的要走
常常要伸出手
遮住脸


   你从未离开

歌手：那英 专辑：如今

                                                                   每当你来到身边
                                                                    爱经过我双眼飞进心田
从此一眼望穿今生时间
说不清聚还是散
不敢轻言一句誓言
却挡不住生死般的思念
就算你的气息像隔世尘烟
一次呼吸一生过往
你在彼岸从未离开
纵幸福只是昙花一现
如果离别的咒语不再应验
让诺言沉睡后再次醒来
等待爱任何时间带我重返这世界
依然看见
你从未离开
你从未离开
等待爱任何时间带我重返这世界
依然看见
 你从未离开

 

最爱这一天

歌手：那英 专辑：征服

                                                                     最爱这一天词:沈庆曲 编:小柯

从轻轻的指间留住的时间
能从容的面对这秋冬的变迁
落日的孤单
在匆匆人世间只相逢一瞬间
就已经相信还有不变的誓言
真诚和永远
人群中擦肩过有多少动人的容颜
我心里不能忘只有你微笑的双眼
最爱这一天
悲也好喜也好
最爱这一天
生老事命运知道
最爱这一天
苦也好痛也好
最爱这一天
最难得你能明
从轻轻的指间留住的时间
能从容的面对这秋冬的变迁
落日的孤单
在匆匆人世间只相逢一瞬间
就已经相信还有不变的誓言
真诚和永远
人间事如潮水过去的无法再挽回
恍然间才发现你只是默默相对
最爱这一天
悲也好喜也好
最爱这一天
生老事命运知道
最爱这一天
苦也好痛也好
最爱这一天
最难得你能明
最爱这一天
(music)
最爱这一天
悲也好喜也好
最爱这一天
命运事谁知道
最爱这一天
苦也好痛也好
最爱这一天
有人来有人走远
从轻轻的指间留住的时间
能含著笑面对
那一去永不回的这一天

I was in JBOss training with RedHat people. And I felt very bad leg pains in the middle of the session while the aircondictioner was freezing cold even I was in my long sleeve. It was the extension of my lower abdominal pain. What a pain for women!

 

I withstood the training though some are very techie kind of knowledge to me on the top of my pain. The presentation by the Indian guy are very interesting business prepositions.

 

Walked out of Shenton House, and felt very terrible dizziness when the daylight suddely casting into my eyes. I almost wanted to squat down to stablize. So I took a taxi back to the office with Tina. She said my face looked more painful than a woman who is going to giving birth to a baby. :)

 

I was almost in tears when I finally moved to my seat. I informed Mr. Tang that I had to go home. On my way I felt the world was pale probably because I happened to see my face that was even more pallid, in the mirror a while ago . Oriental beauty.:)

 

Rested right away on the bed after reaching home. It always feels better to lie down under that circumstance. Viv is out to work. Nobody is home. I was alone on the bed feeling really bad with tears streaming down my face until I fell asleep. I set an alarm clock and woke up after one hour to see my face tone uneven. If mother came home then and saw me in the face, she would say 'you must have cried.' The tear trace is slightly shiny on my slightly powdered visage.

 

Got up to read over mother's blog and felt even more sentimental. Cried again as I did the night before when reading her half done blog on grandma. The last sentence was especially pulling my heart string. I have to be a good daughter to her so there are more reasons for her to feel that 'she did not come to this world in vain'. I almost cried my heart out to feel for her.

 

Home stay makes one's heart very small and think a lot more in a sentimental way with easy touch to all those reminders.

 

Cooked plain porridge and fried pig livers. A ya...hehe... hee.... for dinner.

 

Went to Red Hill park on late night. Played swing and other childhood favourites. Tall as I am, and 'old' as I am,  I could still squeeze myself in and out of the kid-size facilities? Waaa.... Anyway very happy. Swinging high and maintaining constant speed turned out not easy. It was really fun and energy consuming. After getting home I felt hungry! Drank a glass of milk and Zzzzzzzzzzzzz....:)